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why is it so hard to maintain good friends
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maintaining friendships as an adult is: > find habits & routines that keep your friends in your life > you can hang 1:1 OR invite them to activities you already do - a very natural 'in' since it's already in your schedule! > staying in touch doesn't have to be high effort: random texts, voice memos while you're walking, quick facetimes > stop getting in your head if it's been a while since you've connected - people want to hear from you!!! > celebrate their wins genuinely (new jobs, relationships, accomplishments) AND be there during the hard times > you can host small gatherings at your home to see multiple friends at once > stop prioritizing *work* every time people... friends often outlast jobs just saayyyying > remember the details about them - what they do, where they moved, the name of their partner - the little things matter > be honest about what you need in the friendship. "would love to do monthly dinners - does that work for you?" AND put in effort to make it happen > treat maintaining friendships as you would exercise - give it your time & energy just as YOU change over time, so are your friends STAY curious about who they're becoming!!! reach out!!! make plans!!! you got this!!!